Issue11

Issue 11 July 4, 2008
This Issue: Trust and Trusting Businesses and guarantees:

Trust:
Trust defined by Webster: “1 a: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of
someone or something. b: one in which confidence is placed.” (Trust, 2008)
I had to learn how to trust the people who were trying to help me when I entered therapy. I figured
I could just learn enough from them to fix myself and I did not have to trust them. Ouch! They want
your trust, to believe they have your best interest at heart, and will not intentionally hurt you.
Whoops! Well then there is the human factor involved in this equation, differences of cognitive
thinking, upbringing, spiritual faith, and diversity of lifestyles. With a bang!

Then you add my push for control of my life; since I have let everyone else control me, as a people
pleaser. The first person you interactive with is the case manager, whom assumed by inquiry, believes
that I was just making bad decisions for myself and their way should be better.

I did not think so, and still do not agree that they should make decisions for you. Guide you,
teach you, and educate you, YES, on how to decide what is best for yourself. Let you continue
to make decisions and then discuss them. I have a therapist outside the normal run of the mill
government agency and I am so graceful. I have changed but not because of the mandated
centers, I must maintain appearances at for case management and medication monitoring. My
therapist was a gift to me by my faith that things would change, and I would find someone to help
me.

She asks me questions that help me think about the way I see reality and is it based on fact or
something someone told me. We base a lot of our belief about ourselves, and other people on
what people tell us. We let people be our talking mirror; you act this way, or that. Then again
someone else might reflect a different view. We want to believe what we are told; we want to trust
other people. The fact is you have to pick and choose who you trust. Make them earn your trust.
Don’t just give trust away it is too expensive to do so. The cost to your inner wealth of
happiness, success, and your resilience spirit is at stake. How you bounce back is of utmost
importance.
All your characteristics you possess, for example, fortitude, courage, audacity, challenge,
debate, and ponder are pulled to their limits if you trust to easily, and you will beginning to
question your own decision making abilities. Life is a contest of experience, wits, guts, and
persistence. There are going to be smooth times and times you do not want to be pushed;
therefore, push yourself harder than anyone else. If you miss, keep practicing till you get it right.
Not use the word failed, it defeats your purpose. They just won that round. Abilities come easy to
some and harder for others but never give up your dream.

Now this will bring us to the business part.

Trusting Businesses and guarantees:
Let me start with me. Should you trust me? I just want to help, and make money online. I have a
journal I want you to subscribe to and maybe buy something I have written, recommend, or the
service I use. With all my excellent intentions what I like or use may not work out for you. If they
do work for you, you trust me, and if they do not work for you, you do not trust me. See? So you
have to try services out for yourself. Sometimes you get lucky and find the service you are
looking for quickly. For example, I tried two auto-responders before choosing Aweber.com.

Read a few different e-zines for recommendations of products and services before trying them.
For example, everything offline is similar to online. For example, we go shopping offline and get
sweet talked into a purchase as fast as a sales page online and like the product or dislike it.
Store the product on our computer and forget about it as easy as putting the new electronic
equipment we do not know how to use in the draw or storage closet. For example, I found two
shirts in my regular closet yesterday; I bought approx. three weeks ago with the tags still on
them. I think everyone buys things and forgets about them. It is a matter of wanting stuff, to feel
important. So what does that have to do with trust?

Do you think that you develop trust by not reading or using the items you own? How can you
recommend an item in all honesty without using the service or reading the material? What good
is a product if you do not research it after you purchase the item and make sure all the links
work in the material and are the correct item? Do not sell digital products you can not figure out
yourself. I have purchased items just like this. What I call decomposed material and worthless at
purchase. The only way I can use these materials is to fix them one at a time.

I hate buying material with links that do not work, or have the wrong material attached…and no
way to get in touch with the seller. You must realize the responsibility lies with you if you do not
research the company and if you do use them except what they have to offer as is.

Trust is an issue every time you purchase something. My suggestion is to find out as much
about the company online before purchasing. For example: Name, Address, Phone #, and e-mail
address. Try calling the phone number before you purchase, if the phone is a working number
you can bet the business is real. I have called numbers that were not working and you guessed
it, I did not purchase anything from them. Even if they have a funky home message you know
that they exist, and you should be able to get assistance at some point. Also, send a test e-mail
if it doesn't not bounce back undeliverable you should be okay! Remember with all this research
does not mean they have excellent customer service, or people skills, if you do have a problem.

Well I hope I helped you this week. Happy Fourth of July.

Reference:
trust. (2008). In Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary.
Retrieved July 2, 2008, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/trust